4 Surprising Ways to Boost Your Intuition and Abundance at Work — Starting with Changing Your Mind Around “Competition”
Obsessive competition blocks your intuition and "abundance."
There, I said it. Because I know from experience.
As a self-identified people pleaser, I had to work really hard to get over the idea that there were people out there that didn't like me when I first started Holisticism. Especially if those people knew me, or if I'd gone out of my way to help them.
Little Miss Perfectionist here was all, "What the fuq, brah? What's your DAMAGE?"
I spent hours wondering what I'd done wrong — I'd been nice, helpful, supportive! So why was this person sliding into my DMs being shady, or rude, or flat-out telling lies about me to other people?
Sometimes, my hurt turned into anger. I'd obsessively check in on the person who I felt wronged me from afar, keeping score as to what they'd copied from me (the audacity!) and mentally tallying up the ways I was morally superior to them to make myself feel better.
This wasn't a good use of my time and energy. I literally felt my intuition and inspiration draining out of me.
It was also, like, major ick. I didn't like the person I was when I got that competitive.
So I just started politely ignoring people who hate-followed me and my work. Eventually, the charge behind it all went away. I repeated the mantra, You are not for everyone, to myself a lot.
And things started to change.
Business picked up — fast.
My intuition started roaring. And I felt really good.
I often hear from wellness practitioners and creators that they're annoyed by someone who's trying to knock off their work or step on "their clients."
But here's the thing: You're irreplaceable. What YOU bring to the table is unlike what anyone else can bring. Truly. And when you create from your heart, no one can keep up with your work.
So if you're worried about your competition, you've gotta believe that. And you've gotta double down on boosting your intuition, because it's the thing that will set you apart and lead you to success.
Keep scrolling for the next steps to moving from competition into collaboration, and from anxiety into abundance.
4 Surprising Ways to Turn Boost Your Intuition and Abundance at Work
Turn competitors into collaborators
I get it, I get it. In this patriarchal capitalist existence, it's been jammed into our brains since day one (especially if you're a female-identifying person) that THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE [insert title here], AND IT MUST BE YOU.
That's because capitalism is a pyramid. And there is only room for one person (or class of people) to be at the top of the pyramid.
So our brains naturally turn every circumstance into a Me vs. Them knock-down drag out.
Let's say you're a Breathwork teacher who focuses on addressing self-worth in your offerings. And you find that another Breathwork teacher is also offering a class on self-worth, and talks a lot about the relationship of self-worth to breathwork, and it seems like this person is getting a following of people interested in what they do.
That might make you feel some kinda way — a million thoughts fly through your brain. You might get anxious that they're better than you. You might get angry that they're copying you (even if you don't know each other). You might get scared that your message isn't powerful enough. You might feel annoyed that your followers are following them, too. You might feel sad that you thought your perspective was unique, but it turns out maybe it wasn't.
These are all valid feelings. After years of being taught an individualist, winner-take-all mindset, you might jump to, "I have to compete with this person and destroy them in order to be happy and successful."
Whoa, turbo.
AND your logical brain knows that there's definitely enough room for both of you to offer similar things ... right? There are MILLIONS of people who do breathwork. You don't have to accumulate all the followers and all the breathwork people in order to succeed.
It's not ~actually~ us against them. Because the odds are good that from a meta level, the two of you want the same thing — to help as many people as possible with breathwork.
If you're both going to the same BBQ, you wouldn't sabotage the person bringing the chips and guac just because you want people to drink your kombucha cocktail, right? You want the same thing — for the snack table to be lit.
Turn your competitors into your contemporaries. Create space for a dialogue of respect and admiration. Help each other. Learn from each other.
It's a baller move.
Action Steps:
Create your competition list
Cross out competition and write "collaborators and contemporaries"
Reach out and become friends with those who are in alignment with your values
Unfollow and unsubscribe from the people who you don't vibe with. Stop keeping tabs.
Heads up: If you're hate-following people, you're wasting your life and your energy. Trust me. When you're using your attention to keep tabs on people who aren't your people — meaning, they're out of alignment with what you believe in and stand for — then you're wasting the limited energy that you have on pettiness, hatred, jealousy, annoyance... whatever you want to call it.
Be decisive and free yourself. If someone rubs you the wrong way and you're constantly waiting for them to fuck up or do something annoying, unsubscribe from their life and work.
Reinvest your energy in the people who you want to see grow and succeed. Reinvest your energy in yourself.
Action Steps:
Unfollow the people who you know you have an unhealthy level of comparison or competition with who are not aligned with your values
Unsubscribe from their work and emails
Keep YOUR shit tight
When in doubt, keep your head down and stay focused on YOUR purpose and YOUR work. A few good pieces of advice to write down on a post-it note by your desk:
"You'll never get judged by someone who's doing more than you." So don't be afraid of what other people think. You'll rarely get criticized by people who are more "successful" (define how you will) than you.
"Losers keep score." I cringe at the idea of winners and losers, but it's the principle here. There's a sort of desperation in people who are obsessed with keeping score (see number 2). Focus on your wins for the right reason — because they give you information and help you decide how to best move forward.
Become an essentialist
Wanna be more intuitive and abundant in your work and business? Become an essentialist.
Do less, but do it better.
Reject the notion that you should accomplish everything, and instead choose specific directions in which you can excel. Be ruthless.
Constantly question yourself and your plans. Why are you acting in that way? What are you choosing to invest your time in? Does it serve your vision for your life and work?
When we're distracted by all the ~things~ in our work (including other people) our connection to our intuition gets static. Clarity in one aspect of your life will lead to clarity in all aspects of your life.
The more clear and less distracted you are, the more easily you'll connect to your intuition. And that's always a good thing.
Action steps:
What are the three habits that you want to change in yourself? (Examples: Mindlessly scrolling on IG, stalking my ex on Facebook, etc.) How much time do you spend doing these activities?
Write out your list of things you want to accomplish this year. Cut it in half. Focus on those things.
Read the book Essentialism and take notes!
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