Inner Internet Boundaries, Gene Keys and Cancel Culture with Daje James
Episode Description
How do you access the portal that is the internet with ease? What if you're afraid of being canceled? How do you create and sustain comfortable boundaries while expanding your image and brand online? How can you use your Gene Key to tap into your innate strategy? All of this and more is what Daje James of @thestorydoula and Michelle dive into on today's episode. Daje James is the founder of Brave School and the Brave School Podcast where she muses on spirit, strategy, and the creative process.
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Instances to hold accountability within the community need to be done in a way that honors the person's humanity. - Daje James
When I'm ready, I will respond to you. Sometimes some things need a more urgent response, but I only give that response when I've cultivated inner safety. Cultivating inner safety on the internet is a big freaking deal. - Daje James
A person who knows that they're about to cancel someone knows that they're starting a forest fire. - Daje James
The idea is that transformation or state change is not linear. If we want to build sustainably, we have to lean into a more cyclical model that models the way that nature unfolds from itself. - Daje James
If it doesn't circle back around and continue to expand and grow in a circular or a cyclical format, then it's going to fizzle out. Preparing for cyclical transformation is being willing to lean into the process and say, we're not through and there isn't an end to growth, there isn't an end to expansion. - Daje James
Strategy is about getting low to the ground and listening to what the context is and responding to the contexts based on what you hear. - Daje James
Everybody is innately strategic. Everybody has a story that's unfolding out of them all the time and it's not a story that's linear. It's a story that's cyclical, that's bending and folding with the seasons. We're not just these beings that wake up one day out of the womb and live these linear lives. So why would we expect business to be the same way? A user journey is not a straightforward process. It has a lot of loops. It contains a lot of backward and forwards dances. - Daje James
I think of frameworks like channels. They're just channels that the work flows through like it's alchemy, spell work, it's Abracadabra. I love that word, but it also Abraca-do-the-work. - Daje James
I'd rather be a siren singing one note into the dark, asking it to break into stars, than to be silent. That's how I see the internet. - Daje James
We mistake safety, cycles, or that framework for something that's fencing us in. When in reality it's like the skeleton that's holding us up and that we need in order to move forward. - Michelle Pellizzon
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SHOW NOTES
[00:00:06] Podcast begins.
[00:02:59] The Profitable Content Creator Lab (PCCL) goes live on April 19th and begins May 6th
[00:03:29] PCCL will equip you on how to intuitively and magically make contents that gets you paid.
[00:06:05] If you know how to make profitable content, you'll know how to take those skill sets and apply them to another person's business, product, or service. That's always going to be an in-demand skill.
[00:07:23] Our guest for today is an incredible content creator, Daje James.
[00:11:16] I'd rather be a siren singing one note into the dark, asking it to break into stars, than to be silent. That's how I see the internet. - Daje
[00:12:45] The, the fear of being canceled, the fear of being consumed by the energy of the internet is so real.
[00:13:11] Michelle asked, “how do you define being canceled?” To Daje, it’s when a person or a group of people try to strip away another person's opportunity. It’s trying to tear away somebody's humanity.
[00:14:58] A person who knows that they are about to cancel someone knows that they're starting a forest fire.
[00:15:44] The Black and White Thinking book talks about how humans want to categorize things to understand the level of safety associated with it. We have this tendency to want to reduce things down to the lowest common denominator.
[00:18:18] Gene Keys: Unlocking the Higher Purpose Hidden in Your DNA
[00:20:31] Michelle and Daje shared what they are in enneagram.
[00:23:26] I get told a lot that I'm intimidating. My college friends used to call me “pointy Michelle” because I was hard and so tough. But I'm really soft and cry all the time.
[00:25:00] I've just been on this journey of trying to fall in love with my aura. Just like love myself. - Daje
[00:26:00] Daje’s gene keys read it back to her confirming how she can transmute the powerful energy that she was born with.
[00:29:30] The most painful part is when you thought that you were good, open, and you were making a comfortable space for everyone, only to realize that people are still scared and intimidated of you, despite you trying so hard.
[00:30:13] If this wasn't about love. I would've quit a really long time ago. - Michelle
[00:31:29] Just because you can do it fast by yourself, doesn't mean it's going to be worthwhile.
[00:34:44] The gene keys helped me understand my human design a little bit better. - Daje
[00:36:08] Daje shared how discovering her human design changed her whole life and business.
[00:37:50] Michelle shared how she collaborates with her partner and Wallis to get stuff done.
[00:38:41] Daje shared where and how she met her partner, Michael.
[00:42:44] We don't just want growth for the sake of growth. That's such a silly KPI.
[00:43:03] Daje shared the idea of “fertile frameworks.” Preparing for cyclical transformation is being willing to lean into the process and say, we're not through. Expansion for expansion’s sake is empty. It's void.
[00:48:40] Everybody has a story that's unfolding out of them all the time. And it's not a story that's linear. It is a story that is cyclical, that is bending and folding with the seasons.
[00:49:03] A user journey is not a straightforward process. It has a lot of loops. It contains a lot of backward and forwards.
[00:50:49] People want business to be easy. The thing is, life is simple. Magic is simple. Intuitive business is simple. Strategy is simple. But it's not easy.
[00:54:03] We don't live in a binary. There is so much more in between that.
[00:55:15] Framework is like channels. It's Abracadabra. It’s also, Abraca-do-work!
[00:55:58] Create a space for change to happen.
[00:57:10] When you understand mental models and frameworks, your life gets so much easier because you don't have to prove anything.
[00:59:47] We have free will to choose our destiny. Do the work and connect with people in authentic ways.
[01:04:42] I want to be authentic, but there are so many characters and archetypes that I play. - Michelle
[01:08:07] People on the internet, if they don't acknowledge the hard stuff going on in their lives, they get called fake. When they do, they get called pathetic. It’s magnifying people’s shit, as much as it's magnifying people’s goodness.
[01:13:23] Holisticism talks about wellbeing through business, how can we create a world that is more well, and living on purpose.
[01:16:04] The internet is like this little cloud. It is a web that's constantly changing and evolving. Internet is like the fifth element --- earth, wind, fire, water, internet.
[01:26:02] Podcast ends.